Scorn

Scorn:  open dislike and disrespect or derision often mixed with indignation.

 

Today, as I scrolled through my Facebook page, I caught a glimpse of this guy, let's call him Arnie, from my hometown in someone's status post. When I seen his picture immediately what came to mind was a comment he made to a mutual friend about his ex wife. It loosely went something like "God, my wife was never happy, she was miserable all the time!" Our mutual friend told me of his comment and I responded that it was probably the scorn of a woman who was cheated on that he confused with misery. The remark caught my friend off guard and the topic was dropped. It's funny how men and women differ on the topic of infidelity.

Scorned women are everywhere, if they wore a letter "S" on their sleeve the world would be in a sea of S's dangling from their shirts. Malls would be filled with fashionable ways to wear your heart on your sleeve, cell phones sleeves would retail clever "S" on the jackets or instead of the letter C on handbags S would replace it. But a scorn woman rarely goes public with such flagrant news. Most women are so hurt from the betrayal that it's almost never goes beyond their closest of friends. As for a man, well they just don't see it that way, for most it was a sexual thing with very little emotions and they don't view it as really cheating because they still love their wives.

If you leave scorn to fester it becomes a breeding ground for unhappiness and contempt. Look at Maria Shriver or Shania Twain who both recently left their marriages due to infidelity, albeit, in Ms. Shriver's case it's speculated. But I seen a photo of Maria that had unhappiness written all over it and I watched her odd YouTube video on "Transitions" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sux6hjX_7iQ) and chuckled because she didn't come right out and say she was separated but you could read into her message.

In the past couple of years, I have seen so many scorn women on television stand by their man as they confessed their infidelities to the world, most popular amongst U.S. governors and Eliot Spritzer. So popular, The Good Wife appeared on T.V. as a show that follows a scorn woman who stands by her man, a fallen politico, and her inner battles as she digests her husband's indiscretions.

So before one can comment on another person's misery or unhappiness, you should looked beyond the obvious and see if in fact your opinions add up. And maybe before you tell friends about your wife's shitty attitude make sure she's just not angry over your infidelities.